Teenage boys increasingly choosing AI chats over real relationships, study finds
A UK study of 1,000 boys aged 12 to 16 found that 85% have talked to an AI chatbot at least once, while more than a quarter find AI interaction more attractive than relationships with real people.
New research from the UK suggests that artificial intelligence is becoming a more common communication partner for teenagers. In a survey of 1,000 boys aged 12 to 16, 85% said they had chatted with an AI chatbot at least once. A fifth of respondents reported knowing a peer who has a romantic relationship with an AI conversational partner. More than a quarter of those surveyed said that the attention and communication from an AI partner seemed more attractive than a relationship with a real person.
Why AI appears appealing
Experts point out that AI does not reject, criticise, and is always available. Relationship researcher Nicholas Velotta explains that during adolescence, when self-confidence and self-understanding are still developing, such unconditional attention can create an illusion of intimacy. Unlike humans, AI always responds, does not take offence, does not argue, and does not ask uncomfortable questions. This creates a sense of safety, especially for young people who fear rejection or awkward situations.
Psychologists warn that difficult situations are an essential part of growing up. Real relationships teach people to manage conflict, accept rejection, develop empathy, and understand the needs of others. These social and emotional tools cannot be fully learned through conversations with a programme designed to please the user.
The line between aid and substitute
Experts stress that AI itself is not a problem. It can help train communication skills, formulate thoughts, or provide emotional support in certain situations. The risk arises when AI starts to replace real relationships instead of complementing them. Other studies also show that young people increasingly use chatbots not only for information but also for emotional communication, such as discussing problems, asking for advice, or exploring relationship issues.
Specialists believe society will need to have serious discussions about the boundary between technology as a helper and technology as a replacement for human relationships. The ability to accept rejection, resolve conflicts, and form bonds with real people remains one of the most important skills for a fulfilling adult life.
